Ok so the title says “men” because obviously we buy presents for men other than our husbands or significant others from time to time. However, this particular go around I was buying for my husband. So here goes…
Our 4th wedding anniversary is coming up on Thanksgiving this year! Usually I always order something he sends me a specific link for, but I’m a little tired of always giving the cheaper/less original gift. He’s really a very picky individual that collects very specific objects. For example, he collects high quality knives. All kinds. They’re freaking everywhere at my house! He also smokes a tobacco pipe. So now we have that collection clutter on my shelves. He also likes hats and John Muir quotes.
Clearly, I’m married to a “hipster” lol. It’s cool, he’s honestly a pretty rad dude and I love him dearly (most days). So I really wanted to go above and beyond my usual Amazon order. So here’s a short list of the ideas I brainstormed.
- A new pipe and collection of new tobacco
- A beard grooming gift set
- Concert tickets
- Rocking chair (for front porch sittin’)
- Stranger Things collectibles
- Suspenders and a few outfits to go with them
- Record player and some vinyls
Okay so this isn’t the most extensive list but you have to know my guy. I really just wanted to give you a scaffold of ideas to branch off of when you’re doing your own shopping. I went with the record player and a Chris Stapleton vinyl by the way. First time EVER that I have his gift before he has mine. I think that means I win this year lol. I ended up with a Crosley Cruiser from Target (yes, I scored this on a Target run lol). They have Vinyl now so I picked that up at Target also. Right now they have the black Crosley for $59.99! I spent about $80 total and I know it’s a gift he’ll use time and time again. Also, the helpful guy in electronics let me know that there wasn’t a huge difference between the Cruiser and the more expensive options so snaps for him and thank you little buddy! 👏🏼🙌🏼 If you’ve managed to scroll to the end, thanks for reading! I’ll be sure to check in and let you know what he thinks and where we score some amazing new records.
As you can see it’s been a hot minute since I last posted. I think I needed a break from life to let my mental state recuperate. I haven’t really been doing anything outside of taking care of the sweet little one and spending time with my husband. I did, however, quit my job. Aside from a few loose ends, I just decided it was time to move on. I’ve never felt better about leaving an opportunity. It was just too far away from my passions and it was draining me. I couldn’t be a good mom when all I could think about what the dread I felt for work.
So from there, I’m not sure what my next move is. I’m currently working on my real estate license and just kind of enjoying life. I’d like to find more outlets to be creative and work with my hands. I find that I’m happiest when I can create things.
I suppose the point in sharing all of this is to illustrate how important mental health is in relation to parenting. I needed to “reset” for the sake of my daughter. Since taking the step back, I’ve realized I was selling myself short and it was hurting both of us. I’m so grateful my husband has a job that allows me to kind of retreat inward from time to time. I just want other moms to know it’s okay to not have a 9-5 CAREER. It’s okay to not buy into the rushing around lifestyle. Some people, introverts especially, need that downtime to re-energize and discover themselves again. Life is too short to stay in the career you hate just because being busy is glamorized.
I would like to precede the following post with the motive behind it. I find myself complaining about my husband on a daily basis and I just feel that I need to recognize the positivity he brings to my life and try to recognize it on a more regular basis.
Ordinarily, I’m ranting about my husband not helping with the baby, leaving messes, ignoring me to play video games, neglecting yard work, etc. See, there I go again. I do feel like I carry the weight of the household most days, but I need to recognize that he does leave the house everyday and work at one of the most stressful jobs in the world (air traffic controller). He provides for us and would do absolutely anything to make us happy.
I’m reminded of his kind heart on special days. My birthday was just a few days ago and he rewarded me by taking me out to buy a nice camera. I’ve been begging for one so I could take baby pictures without shelling out the cash for professional pictures every other month. He also took the time to take us hiking all afternoon so I could play with my new toy and enjoy some quality time together as a family. I can’t even express how much that day meant to me. As a somewhat peculiar female, I do not enjoy shopping sprees, fancy dinners, or trips to the spa. That day was exactly what I needed to feel special and only he could do that for me.
I suppose I should summarize the point behind this long-winded brag session. Husbands may frustrate us to no end, but at the end of the day maybe we need to put ourselves in their shoes. I can honestly say my husband has no clue what he’s doing as a parent, but I don’t either. He’s learning right along with me. He doesn’t have the advantage of staying home with her every single day and I need to recognize the learning curve and help bring him up to speed, not belittle him for his inexperience.