What NOT to Say to a New Mom

Since becoming a mom, I’ve encountered a wide array of strange, intrusive, and even rude comments. This is a tribute to these awkward situations and a warning for those contemplating their next dumb statement to a new mom. Just don’t. 

1. “Don’t worry. You’ll lose all that weight.”  ( I don’t need anyone to tell me I’ll lose ALL THAT weight)

2. “I can’t believe you’re using a pacifier.”

3. “But don’t let her suck her thumb either. That’s  even worse!”

4. “Be sure to start her off in the crib. You want her trained from the beginning”

5. “You should be sleep training.”

6. “You’re spoiling that baby.”

7. “I think you’re nursing her too much.”

8. “Can you get a sitter so you don’t have to bring her?”

9. “When are you starting daycare?”

10. “Will you be weaning her soon?”

11. “You can be successful OR have a baby.”

12. “Can’t you wait to feed her til you get to the car?”

13. “Why are you so tired if you didn’t work today?”

14. “Thinking about a another baby already? It’s too soon!”

15. “Did you have a normal birth?”
Okay, notice a common theme? All of these comments cross a crucial none of your damn business boundary. I’ve heard each and every one of these since having my daughter. This is a problem. So please, for the love of God, just stop. Women deal with enough criticism. Leave your mommy instruction book at the door and let us mommy our own, individual way in peace. 

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