Taking a Moment to Brag on My Husband 

I would like to precede the following post with the motive behind it. I find myself complaining about my husband on a daily basis and I just feel that I need to recognize the positivity he brings to my life and try to recognize it on a more regular basis. 

Ordinarily, I’m ranting about my husband not helping with the baby, leaving messes, ignoring me to play video games, neglecting yard work, etc. See, there I go again. I do feel like I carry the weight of the household most days, but I need to recognize that he does leave the house everyday and work at one of the most stressful jobs in the world (air traffic controller). He provides for us and would do absolutely anything to make us happy. 

I’m reminded of his kind heart on special days. My birthday was just a few days ago and he rewarded me by taking me out to buy a nice camera. I’ve been begging for one so I could take baby pictures without shelling out the cash for professional pictures every other month. He also took the time to take us hiking all afternoon so I could play with my new toy and enjoy some quality time together as a family. I can’t even express how much that day meant to me. As a somewhat peculiar female, I do not enjoy shopping sprees, fancy dinners, or trips to the spa. That day was exactly what I needed to feel special and only he could do that for me. 

I suppose I should summarize the point behind this long-winded brag session. Husbands may frustrate us to no end, but at the end of the day maybe we need to put ourselves in their shoes. I can honestly say my husband has no clue what he’s doing as a parent, but I don’t either. He’s learning right along with me. He doesn’t have the advantage of staying home with her every single day and I need to recognize the learning curve and help bring him up to speed, not belittle him for his inexperience. 

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Baby Must Haves at 5 Months

So, my little Millie girl is 5 months old tomorrow. That alone is enough to blow my mind and I’ll probably cry a few bittersweet tears when I take her monthly photo tomorrow. Since she’s growing so fast and her favorite activities are changing by the week, I thought I’d share and commemorate what her favorites are for this month.

  1. BOBA WRAP: I cannot sing enough praises for this invention. My Boba has been a lifesaver since she was two weeks old. It contains pure sleepy dust. Okay, maybe not but it might as well. Anytime she is fussy, tired, or just pissed off for some unknown reason, the Boba will save the day. It’s comfortable for me to wear around the house and some days that’s the only way I can accomplish anything. Also, it’s low key stylish for when I have to make a Target run with spit up on my shirt.
  2. Skip Hop Stationary Activity Center: She loves this! The toys simply snap into place and the entire station evolves for your growing/developing baby. I love the fact that it doesn’t have cartoon characters. No Nemo or Pooh messing with my living room decor  🙂 Now if those guys are you jam, more power to you. I prefer the minimalist design Skip Hop has given us.
  3. Munchkin Mesh Feeder: We’re doing baby led weaning and this little gadget is perfect for transitioning into that. She’s still a little young to be chewing real food but has been showing some real interest in food so the mesh feeder is perfect for to start sampling fruit and veggie flavors. I highly recommend purchasing this!
  4. Munchkin Teething Ball: Munchkin also has this little gem on the market now. My mom picked this up and I initially thought it would be too awkward and she would never chew on it. Well…let me tell you this is her favorite teething toy to date. We bring that ball everywhere and if she isn’t chewing on one of the textures, she’s latched onto it. Nursing babes lol.
  5. Aquaphor Diaper Rash Cream: Okay this last one is more of my favorite. I’m pretty sure she couldn’t care less which cream I’m plastering her backside with. This stuff has really been phenomenal for any irritation she gets. A few months ago, I was still using Desitin, which actually made her skin look worse. I picked up some Aquaphor Diaper Rash Cream on a trip to Target and haven’t looked back since.

At 5 months, these are our main squeezes. I’d love to hear what other sweet babes are loving at this age and what other moms can recommend as she gets older! As always, much love to those that stumble across my humble blog posts ❤

 

What NOT to Say to a New Mom

Since becoming a mom, I’ve encountered a wide array of strange, intrusive, and even rude comments. This is a tribute to these awkward situations and a warning for those contemplating their next dumb statement to a new mom. Just don’t. 

1. “Don’t worry. You’ll lose all that weight.”  ( I don’t need anyone to tell me I’ll lose ALL THAT weight)

2. “I can’t believe you’re using a pacifier.”

3. “But don’t let her suck her thumb either. That’s  even worse!”

4. “Be sure to start her off in the crib. You want her trained from the beginning”

5. “You should be sleep training.”

6. “You’re spoiling that baby.”

7. “I think you’re nursing her too much.”

8. “Can you get a sitter so you don’t have to bring her?”

9. “When are you starting daycare?”

10. “Will you be weaning her soon?”

11. “You can be successful OR have a baby.”

12. “Can’t you wait to feed her til you get to the car?”

13. “Why are you so tired if you didn’t work today?”

14. “Thinking about a another baby already? It’s too soon!”

15. “Did you have a normal birth?”
Okay, notice a common theme? All of these comments cross a crucial none of your damn business boundary. I’ve heard each and every one of these since having my daughter. This is a problem. So please, for the love of God, just stop. Women deal with enough criticism. Leave your mommy instruction book at the door and let us mommy our own, individual way in peace. 

The Struggle Behind the Struggle Bus

The history of the struggle bus goes way back for this girl. My husband used to call me “Murphy” as in Murphy’s Law when we were in high school. At times, I’ve also been called “Grace” as an ironic nod to my clumsiness 🙄. It seems that every single day has a moment where I just have to sigh and say “seriously?!?” in reference to my unfortunate circumstances. 

For instance, this week alone, my car was hit in a Hobby Lobby parking lot hit & run, my baby is teething and an absolute monster, and my dog puked enough to fill a football stadium and almost died. (She’s fine now btw…the dog. The baby is definitely still moody) 

I suppose the point in me complaining about this nonsense is to demonstrate the constant knot in my stomach that is my life. This blog has become somewhat cathartic for my stress but I feel like I need to break this string of bad luck somehow. I mean, was I just a shitty person in a past life? What the hell? If anyone that stumbles across this post has any thoughts on ways to attract positivity, please share. Until then, I’m going to try every superstition, horoscope, rabbit’s foot, and four leaf clover to make me feel less like a chronic hot mess. 

Thoughts I Have Since Becoming a Mom 

1. “You’re sleepy. Why wont’t you just take the nap?”

2. “Take the f#%*!~g nap…sweet child.”

3. “God, I’m an awful mom for cussing at my kid. Even if it was in my head 😣”

4. (To stranger) “DO NOT touch my baby’s head. She is asleep. Move along.”

5.  “Great, you woke her up. Now I have to murder you.”

6. “Is this normal?!?”

7. “When’s the last time my husband changed a damn diaper???”

8. “I might as well just change it. At least she won’t have a blowout if I do it.”

9.  “When will I get to go to a movie again?”

10. “It’s totally fine. Elena of Avalor is quality entertainment.”

11. “All my hair is falling out. Maybe I should just chop it.”

12. “But then I’ll have a mom haircut.”

13. “I feel less like an adult now. Why do I have a child? I can barely feed myself as it is.”

14. (To doctor) “Don’t ask me where she’s sleeping I will lieeeee like a sleepy hound dog.”

15. “I love you little sweetie. I love you so much I could just eat your face 😘”

What’s the Damn Significance?

Perhaps the postpartum hormones are a little out of balance. Perhaps I’m just returning to my bitchy baseline. Maybe, I’m depressed. I’ve just been dwelling, quite extensively, on what all the crap we stress ourselves out over will mean in a year, ten years, when we’re in a nursing home. Who the hell cares if we get that next bonus? Our grandkids sure as heck won’t give a damn. They won’t care how much we had in our bank account, which Iphone we owned, or who we “networked” with at our work parties.

I just…can’t buy into the hooplah of the busy life we’re supposed to be sold on these days. Where is the emphasis on camping, running barefoot, and hugging the ones we care for. As a mother, I think it’s important to reflect on the slower way of life and not rush our little ones into this chaotic world we live in. I may still be constructing the framework of how I intend to do so, but I felt the impulse to share my feelings so they won’t weigh on my soul so heavily. I see so many moms trying to be the “IT” mommy. I just wish I could log on and see more individuals that were truly INDIVIDUAL.

Mommy Hustle?

I’ve been on Pinterest….okay I’m always on Pinterest, but recently I’ve been flooded with pins about having several streams of income and how that can lead to better financial stability and contribute to your “hustle.” So, I want to hear from other moms that have been  dabbling in several arenas and using their creativity and talent to elicit extra income.

Referring back to my very first post, Day to Day Shenanigans, I currently work as an insurance agent and jewelry merchandiser with Chloe + Isabel. However, I find myself wishing for even more. I don’t wish for more money, but more esteem…no pride in my capabilities. I want to be able to step back, glance around, and take some serious pride in my accomplishments.

Some would probably call me selfish. I would have to give them the middle finger. I love being a mom and I love my job, but I didn’t waste seven years of college not to use every damn skill I gained, PAID FOR. In my perfect world, I would be a work from home mom (like I am now), continue with the insurance industry, earn my real estate license, flip houses, and sell crafts on the side. I wanted all these things before having a “side hustle” was even a thing. Now, I see people conversing about the principle of not having all your eggs in one basket and my dream seems oddly attainable for once. Sure, I’m exhausted and my hair is falling out from my crazy postpartum hormones, but maybe this could be my thing? Maybe all of that could be my thing.

I want to hear from other moms making it work with careers they LOVE…multiple money making niches they LOVE! If your stumble across this lonely, fresh, new mommy blog post, please comment…I’m here to connect. I just wiped old baby puke off my face; it’s been there for hours and I probably need a friend (even an online friend) that can relate to that on some level.

Momma Needs to Rant

Okay, so maybe I don’t need to rant,  but I at least deserve a good whine. I’m feeling very burnt out on life. I love being a mom. However, working and being a mom freakin’ blows. I want to spend my days playing with her. Trying to make myself be active and present with my career is becoming more of a task. I work from home most days, but I find it incredibly challenging to dedicate my time solely to working. I don’t have a babysitter so I attempt to work while she sleeps. I don’t see this working much longer. Her naps are becoming shorter and her time awake is filled with SO much more activity. 

I suppose the whole point of this weeknight whine session is to ask for input. I want to hear how other moms make it work. Help me! How do you continue to feel a “spark” with your career?? I long for the days when I can make a career out of my creative passions, but for now I need to make money to contribute to my family’s income and I desperately need some inspiration…

Day to Day Shenanigans

Hello all!

So we’ve established that I’m new here and I feel like my newness requires somewhat of a deeper introduction of myself. I think an explanation of my other projects and day to day happenings is just.

My day job is in the insurance biz…I’m an agency sales representative for a great company. I can honestly say I LOVE my job. When I first took the position I was three months pregnant, with no prior insurance experience. Previously, I was a mental health therapist. We had to uproot our lives for my husband’s job and there I was…pregnant, in state where I couldn’t work in my field, and bills were piling up. This job has allowed me flexibility to take maternity leave and now I can even bring my daughter to work with me! #SCORE I’d be lying if I said it was an easy job but the income is definitely on par with the work you put in.

On the side I have partnered with Chloe + Isabel. I did this for two reasons. I desperately wanted to get the kit because the jewelry is gorgeous and perfect to wear at work. (Super professional and great quality) Also, I figured any money I can make being a merchandiser would be a great bonus for me. Hello “fun money”. I also need to brag on this company. Unlike other direct sales companies, they do not put pressure on you to recruit to gain money. So, I have zero worries that I will end up bugging my friends to join my team on a daily basis. They also put a huge emphasis on resume building. They stress that this is a career advancement opportunity and the experience gained can be used to land your dream job. As someone that wants as much sales experience as possible this sounded PERFECT!

Right now, I’m actually hosting an online pop up for the next eleven days. If you feel curious about at least checking out the jewelry follow this link and if you have questions for me, shoot me a message:

http://www.chloeandisabel.com/boutique/breannaleslie/a8064e

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First blog post

Hello all! I would like to first say, thank you for checking out Daily Struggle Bus! This blog is somewhat of a personal experiment. I have a track history of starting projects and being extremely ambitious and excited about them. Then, I slowly stop talking about them, thinking about them, and then they’re just gone…I want this blog to not only be my new hobby, but also a tool to hold myself accountable for continuing hobby. I have a long list of failed projects that include various direct sales companies (Beauticontrol, Origami Owl, and Stella & Dot to name a few), restoring antique furniture (which I actually LOVE), and even two blogs I started only to delete within weeks of my first post.

So that’s why I’m starting Daily Struggle Bus. I’m thinking if I throw it out there, y’all can call me out if I fall behind or start that familiar cycle. Also, I’m a MOM now! That’s such a crazy statement for me to make. I struggled to get pregnant for two years and now that I have this beautiful daughter, I want to be a good role model for her. I want her to see that her mama can set her mind to something and go out there and do it!

I’m new to this…I feel like if I don’t have a framework it will be so easy for me to let this go and just delete the blog within a month or so. I’ve always heard “it takes 21 days to form a habit.” Whether that’s true or not, I don’t know, but I plan to follow one of those Pinterest blog prompt posts for the first 30 days. I want my hobby to become my new hobby, my escape, my chance to connect with other moms. Plus, as an added bonus, I’ll get to scope out the results from those Pinterest pages that preach “become a blogger!!!” and report back to everyone on my results 🙂

So that’s the gist of it. Nice to meet y’all. Stay tuned, read, enjoy, and say “hi” every once in a while!