I would like to precede the following post with the motive behind it. I find myself complaining about my husband on a daily basis and I just feel that I need to recognize the positivity he brings to my life and try to recognize it on a more regular basis.
Ordinarily, I’m ranting about my husband not helping with the baby, leaving messes, ignoring me to play video games, neglecting yard work, etc. See, there I go again. I do feel like I carry the weight of the household most days, but I need to recognize that he does leave the house everyday and work at one of the most stressful jobs in the world (air traffic controller). He provides for us and would do absolutely anything to make us happy.
I’m reminded of his kind heart on special days. My birthday was just a few days ago and he rewarded me by taking me out to buy a nice camera. I’ve been begging for one so I could take baby pictures without shelling out the cash for professional pictures every other month. He also took the time to take us hiking all afternoon so I could play with my new toy and enjoy some quality time together as a family. I can’t even express how much that day meant to me. As a somewhat peculiar female, I do not enjoy shopping sprees, fancy dinners, or trips to the spa. That day was exactly what I needed to feel special and only he could do that for me.
I suppose I should summarize the point behind this long-winded brag session. Husbands may frustrate us to no end, but at the end of the day maybe we need to put ourselves in their shoes. I can honestly say my husband has no clue what he’s doing as a parent, but I don’t either. He’s learning right along with me. He doesn’t have the advantage of staying home with her every single day and I need to recognize the learning curve and help bring him up to speed, not belittle him for his inexperience. 
Daily Struggle Bus 
As humans we generally tend to focus on negative things…what the husband/kids aren’t doing right or how there is no room to organize things in the house. However, it is often harder to see or even remember the kind things or to be thankful for what we have. We can remember a negative statement that was said to us 10 years ago but can we remember a specific compliment that was said 10 years ago. Generally, the negative comments or the urge to give negative criticism is at the forefront. Focus on the positive.🙂
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I’ve been feeling the same way too. My husband is a plane mechanic for the Air Force, and he touches so much chemicals he can’t always hold our daughter when he comes home. I get so overwhelmed sometimes because he can’t always help me. But I just have to remember all the things he does for us, and I just have to focus on the positive 🙂
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Great post! If all wives posted positive things about their husbands at least a few times a year, I think it could completely change marriages!
Glad you had such a lovely birthday and enjoy your camera! ^_^
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Thank you for sharing this. It’s something that I need to get better at myself. My partner and I have found our shift to parenthood extremely difficult for our relationship and I find myself complaining about him a lot so it’s good to have this reminder and to try and see things from
His point of view x
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My daughter is only 5 months old so I’m still very new to this, but I’ve found the adjustment we’ve been dealing with as a couple has been the most difficult part of parenthood so far. I have to be very conscious of giving him credit or I just won’t. I’m working on that. Here’s to progress! ☺️
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Glad to know it’s not just us. I think he feels like we’re not normal sometimes. He’s also been working away for weeks on end so had to adjust to zero help and now having to readjust to including him in our day. I feel that we never have any time to ourselves as when Arya goes to sleep I’m exhausted and need to sleep to get through the night shift. It will get easier I know but I’m glad to know I’m not alone in the struggle! X
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Oh and my daughter is 8 months 🙂
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